My mother, Nancy, has passed on…

This has been a difficult several weeks, friends:

My mother, Nancy, died on February 6th at app. 6:30 pm, after doctors put her on Comfort Care and removed all medical devices, including her blood pressure medicine; within a few minutes, she had passed.

I’ll spare you the medical details but in essence, and typical of so many of our seniors who, at the end of their lives tend to wallow in inhuman suffering, her body had given out due to enormous medical complications, and she simply tired of the suffering.

I greatly appreciate the support shown by so many friends and family. I would like to leave you with the obituary I’ve written for her.


My mother, Nancy, was born on September 4, 1932, and passed away after a lengthy illness on February 6, 2015. Nancy was surrounded by her children and her passing was peaceful.


She was born in Piedmont, CA, and along with her sisters Sharon and Marcia, and brothers Lynn and Bill, she was raised on a ranch near Healdsburg, besides spending time on the Marin County coast in the town of Dillon Beach. Nancy, from the age of 5, had a vision for her career that carried her through her adult years; she was determined to become a dietitian and did so, graduating from San Jose State in 1953 and working for Eskaton Corp. in a career that spanned 35 years until she retired in the 90’s.

Nancy met her future husband, John, on a blind date in 1955, only agreeing to go on the double date to help a friend and then, when asked if she would see John again, she replied, “Only as a challenge.” That ‘challenge’ lasted 60 years, until John’s death in January of 2014. Nancy and John were married in Carmichael, CA, on June 26, 1955. After a whirlwind honeymoon trip to Europe, they returned to California and soon became pregnant. After some years in the Bay Area, they eventually moved to Chico, where she lived until her death. Nancy had four children along with four grandchildren.

Nancy and John were travelers and they instilled their love of travel and adventure in their children. Weekends were always spent up in the mountains or the deserts out camping, hiking and exploring, and every summer, they took extensive vacations across the Western United States, visiting national parks and old ghost towns and generally exposing their kids to the spirit of adventure they so enjoyed.

A striking and beautiful woman, Nancy was remarkably patient and calm, and was always kind to everyone; she opened her home to a wide array of friends, family and strangers and bore up under many abuses of her kindness with little complaint. Though her children tested her patience repeatedly, Nancy was always forgiving and supportive of their behavior and would rarely criticize them, preferring instead to show understanding and love, which she was an expert in. Many have said they never saw Nancy without a smile.

She was active in local politics and professional organizations, serving as president of the Lioness Club for many years while regularly attending functions at the Elks Club with John, where they could be seen many Friday nights out on the dance floor, which they both dearly loved.

Nancy was always thinking of others and made everyone she met feel welcome; there was not a mean-spirited bone in her body. She was not one to raise her voice in anger or frustration at anyone, unless it was during one of her beloved SF Forty Niner football games, of which she was an avid fan. In later years, she became a die-hard Nascar and SF Giants fan. Though her health would take a turn for the worse, especially after John’s passing, she rarely complained and with her Stoic attitude, she never let on just how greatly she was suffering. Courageous and brave to the end, she worried more for how her children would handle her passing than she did for her own pain.

She will be remembered as the ‘rock’ of our family and though she will be deeply missed, she was dearly loved and left a legacy of caring and understanding few can match…


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