My dad’s picture from eternity, and “Honey, I want to be a porn star!”: 50 Shades of Grey and married women getting into porn

Here’s an interesting tidbit that you might find…well, interesting:

My father, John, died last year on January 8th. On Christmas Day, while we were gathering for what would be our last Christmas together, I took a few pictures of Pops around the tree (see below). Those would be the last pictures of my father before he finally became too ill to stay at home, at which point he was hustled off to the ICU at Enloe and died shortly thereafter..

At any rate, I imported the pictures to my computer and deleted them from my camera, right? Standard practice in this digital era, and I have since taken perhaps 8, maybe 10 different photo sessions with that camera and have had no issues ever with it. Hell, I’ve been using that Canon for 5 years now and it has been flawless; great pictures, plenty of them and I’ve never had an issue nor has there ever been any pictures remaining on the camera after I have deleted them all (a clue to where this is going, by the way…)

Yes, since Pops’ death, lots of pictures taken, and every single time since that final photo shoot with him at Christmas, when I have imported my new pictures, along with the new shots is 1 single picture of my dad at Christmas. Yep, I have deleted and cleaned that memory card every time, and no matter what I do, there, attached to every new photo session, is my dad.

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Now, a factual, logically-based person would conclude that some kind of glitch must have taken place in order for that single pic to have been, uh…implanted on the memory card; that it’s a simple coincidence and really, means nothing.

OK, so much for factual, logically-based perception, let’s try a more poetic view, and that might be that my old man is saying to us, ‘Don’t forget me, ’cause I will not let you forget me!’

I, of course, prefer the poetic view, as it gives me meaning, and meaning feels good, and I like feeling good. I fear a world where everything has been reduced to fact, in the search for ‘truth’, whatever that may be. No, I prefer a world where I may freely choke up while thinking of my dad; a world where I can accept and believe that my dad sends us little reminders of his presence; a world where what I love and value has importance to me, with its little signs that continually tell me that life is eternal yet to be valued every single moment.

No, ‘true’ or not, I like to think my dad and his picture on my camera which will simply not go away are as real as anything else in this world of illusion.

As Demetrius Toteras loved to say, ‘No one owns the corner on Reality…’

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This week’s MiltnMia Show:

Honey, I want to be a porn star!”: 50 Shades of Grey and married women getting into porn

Milt introduces the show’s theme, married women who want to get into porn. He then talks about 50 Shades of Grey and how that has influenced women today, then asks Mia if movies like 50 Shades are having a positive affect on women’s sexuality. Mia, “It all depends on how you see things; for some, it gives more choices, for others it’s going beyond what you should. It’s individual, of course, but it’s something we can’t stop, people are doing more experimentation.” Milt then talks about their experience watching 50 Shades of Grey and its criticism, that the sex isn’t consensual and it doesn’t paint a realistic portrait or reflect the true bondage experience, then asks for Mia’s opinion, “Does this empower women or is it setting them back?” Mia, “I don’t know if it’s setting women back or empowering; it depends on the person, but I didn’t get turned on by it. Some women will gain power from this, though the woman in the movie was still basically an object of a powerful man.” Milt, “I felt the movie was gray and dreary, never really kicked in and the sex wasn’t that hot or creative, though a lot of people really enjoy the idea. Now, I know 50 Shades is not about a married woman, but married women are experimenting beyond their marriages and trying new sexual expressions, and a lot of people say the book is the driving force.”

He then reads an email, from a woman who wants more out of sex than what her husband gives her and just saw 50 Shades and wants to try some of it and was turned on by the idea of being submissive but is afraid if she says anything her husband will leave her. Mia, “No man will leave you just because you told him you want more; it’s how you deliver the thought to him. You might try dancing and dressing sexy and gently suggesting to him that your sexual life is a little plain and see what he thinks. Most men won’t think you’re perverted; most men are afraid if they reveal their desires to their woman, she’ll get upset. Have a conversation, maybe go see the movie with him and see what he thinks. There’s nothing worse than to be in a marriage where you can’t express your desires, and divorcing a man because of the sex is not a good reason to divorce. Most men want more sex rather than less.” Milt, “She thinks it will shock him if she reveals her desires.” Mia, “Probably because they haven’t had a real talk about sex; who knows, he might love it, and there’s only one way to find out. You might be surprised by what’s laying in hiding.” Milt, “The idea of modern women being secretly turned on by being submissive interests me, is this going to become the new taboo from independent powerful women who are told NOT to be submissive to a man ever?” Mia, “On the one hand, they fear giving their power to a man who’ll dominate them, but on the other hand, it’s really the woman who has the power and will dominate him.” Milt, “At the end of the movie, she is controlling the sex and controlling him.”

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/get-over-yourself!-milt-n/id796661531

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Headed up in a few minutes with my lovely Mia for a couple hours at our secret mountain getaway. In one sense I wish it was closer, so we get to it on a whim, as the driving is the real issue yet, it’s nice -once-we get there- to know that our little corner of heaven, tucked away deep in the northeastern Sierras, is not one you just stumble upon.

Off we go…

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