Milt’s summer hiatus, and “I only want the positives”: The secret to a lasting relationship without the heartaches, with guest expert Cynthia Brian

Friends, I will be taking the remainder of the summer off from my weekly blog posts. I may post the occasional piece, time permitting, but Mia and I have recently been engaged in an enterprise entirely unrelated to relationship counseling, one that we are finding both wildly fulfilling and quite time-consuming, thus I am simply unable to reliably post weekly pieces. I am planning to return to a regular blogging schedule this Fall, but for now, this will be my last piece…until the next one!

Yes, our show, Get Over Yourself! The MiltnMia Show! will continue and can be heard every Saturday at 11 am Pacific when it goes live, and as always, on ITunes, Stitcher, Player.fm and TuneIn.

No worries, though, as Mia and I are in great need of a change in our routine and this summer’s semi-secretive activity will provide just that.

Speaking of our show…

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This week’s MiltnMia Show:

I only want the positives”: The secret to a lasting relationship without the heartaches, with guest expert Cynthia Brian

cynthia in pink

After Milt introduces the show, and mentions he’ll be going before introducing this week’s guest expert interview with NY Times best selling author, speaker, personal growth consultant, producer and host of radio and tv shows, Cynthia Brian, he speaks about their 2 relationship booklets, The Get Over Yourself! Handbook on Cheating and Betrayal and The Get Over Yourself! Handbook on Creating Happiness in a Relationship, before opening today’s theme, the secret to a good, lasting and ‘positive relationship without the heartaches’. He digresses on the State of Jefferson, where the emailer resides, then reads the email, from a young woman who wants to have relationships which don’t end up in fighting and ‘getting stupid’. He mentions his own experiences with anger and picking his fights before saying “There is no secret to perpetual happiness because that is an impossibility.”

Milt, “You can’t pick out only the positive or pleasant aspects of life and ignore the rest. By the way, a word on that ugly word ‘positive’. I say it’s ugly because we are in this period now where a lot of people are looking only for ‘positive’ things as opposed to negative, and I get what they’re intending, it’s a lot like what you’re asking, Linda, uplifting and fun and life-giving feelings and events rather than things that just drag you down and make you feel miserable, but remember, I have been talking on the show about breaking the chain of dualistic thought that has us in its grip and part of doing that is to get rid of the idea that everything must be positive or else it’s no good. Life is a collection of all of it, and positive/negative is a simplistic way to see the world, and I generally reject it.” He goes on to mention that “…there IS a way to enjoy the life you have and to make it fun, light and pleasant much more often than not, and that is, to learn to take yourself and everything in your world a lot less seriously. We gotta learn to laugh at the things that are making us feel so serious and depressed, learn to see beyond just the surface pain or frustration into the light which is there, if you just look hard enough and NOT, I repeat, NOT let your immediate reactions and impulses lead your life for you.” He suggests a reading of the Stoic philosophers, particularly Marcus Aurelius, “…because what you want to learn to do is to be able to handle anything that happens with a calmness that you have developed, a wise understanding beyond the surface of things, this is what you can expect to learn from the old Stoics.”

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/get-over-yourself!-milt-n/id796661531

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Alright then, for all you regular followers and those new to what we do, I wish you all well and I trust you’ll be out enjoying your summer, as we shall. Until my next post, take care, and enjoy!

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