Milt’s summer hiatus, and “I only want the positives”: The secret to a lasting relationship without the heartaches, with guest expert Cynthia Brian

Friends, I will be taking the remainder of the summer off from my weekly blog posts. I may post the occasional piece, time permitting, but Mia and I have recently been engaged in an enterprise entirely unrelated to relationship counseling, one that we are finding both wildly fulfilling and quite time-consuming, thus I am simply … Continue reading

“A hero is anyone who has fought in war”, and a Memorial Day Special: Demetrius Toteras, Korea and the 1st Persian Gulf War

I’ve said this before but I’m generally not a fan of holidays and the pressure to get out and spend, our patriotic duty it would seem. Oh, I love Christmas and New Years and always will, but most of the others strike me as contrived (Valentine’s, MLK, Chavez, President’s Day…) and without great meaning. I’ll … Continue reading

The Truth versus Truth-ing, and A little bit on the side: Having an affair to liven up your marriage

I made my annual visit this last Wednesday night to a private men’s seminar up in Grass Valley, CA. The venue has changed, and the sponsor this year was new to me, but I was heartened to see quite a number of men I have gotten to know over the years there in attendance. I … Continue reading

The blessing and curse of Motherhood, and Using Her for Sex: What Love Isn’t, with guest experts, Merry and Burl Hall

Happy Mother’s Day, everyone! I will be wishing my wife and the mother of my boys, Mia, a more personal Mother’s Day later this evening, but here, I would like to pause for a moment and reflect on the meaning of this day and the general state of Mothering across the planet. Mother’s Day should … Continue reading

MiltnMia are back from an exhausting trip, and man-boobs, irritability and impotence: Manopause and testosterone treatment, along with guest expert, Dawn Westmorelend

Mia and I are back from a rather exhausting trip to South America. While we were able to enjoy ourselves, it was a very difficult trip for me physically, and even more rough trip for her emotionally. Mia’s mother had a massive stroke, paralyzing her entire left side. Heath care in South America is not … Continue reading

Our Cheating book to the rescue, and Pleasuring yourself: Compulsive Masturbation and the Case of the Women’s Shoes

Got an email this week that I thought I’d open today’s blog with; from Kammel U. in Ukiah, CA: “Milton and Mia, you are life-savers! After my wife of 27 years up and left me for one of my farm workers (ouch!), I was despondent and lost. I searched the Internet and found your book, … Continue reading

Nature Worshiper meets Aggressive Hummingbird, my cat and the rattlesnake, and CFNM parties: The Sissification of Men, or Normal Sexual Experimentation?

Every summer, after I set out feeders around the house, we’re invaded by hummingbirds. It’s such a lovely sight to see these minuscule but powerful birds whizzing and buzzing about the house, dive-bombing the feeders in long arcs and occasionally squawking with delight. Of the many who come to visit, I am continually amazed by … Continue reading

Balancing Intimacy with Solitude, the essence of real Friendship, and more World Cup thoughts

Last week’s men’s conference in Nevada City was interesting for a number of reasons, beyond simply a twist on how to deal with Loneliness, and among the more memorable notes from the evening (set in the old Gold Mining tailings above the town) was a discussion on familiarity and the need to be cautious before … Continue reading

Milt faces off with a therapist, the second Interview with Toteras, and thoughts on the World Cup

…Not that I didn’t expect it, but the number of therapists, counselors and so-called ‘mental health experts’ who are loudly objecting to our anti-psychology approach to what I feel are, for the most part, basic existential issues and essentially calling for our heads has been a bit of a surprise. I get it, these ticks … Continue reading

Milt and Mia at 10,000 ft. in the desert, their new website, and a few words on Milt’s Secret Crystal Cave and duping New Age Hippies

Greetings…greetings…greetings…that’s the echo you’d hear if you were sitting beside me this morning, 10,000 feet above the sea floor atop one of the most amazing desert vistas on this amazing planet. Mia and I have been out here for several days traipsing around and ingesting the magnificence which is the Great Basin Desert, and though … Continue reading